Parting Words

August 18, 2024 / reverendjoannwhite / Leave a comment

Sabbath Day Thoughts — “Parting Words” 1 Kings 2:1-12

When someone leaves a significant legacy or accomplishes great things, we say that they leave some big shoes to fill. It can be daunting for those who follow them to match those impressive achievements.

When the legendary founder and director of Apple, Steve Jobs, retired for health reasons, investors doubted that the tech giant could continue its outstanding growth and innovation. But longtime chief operating officer Tim Cook was up to the challenge. In the five years since Cook stepped into leadership, Apple’s total return has been more than 360%. That means $100 invested in 2019 would be worth $460.46 today. At the same time, Apple has continued to innovate, introducing Airpods, Apple watch, and the dustbin MAC Pro—a powerful computer in a tiny cylindrical enclosure

Unfortunately, there are plenty of stories of successors who fail to live up to the standard set by those they replace. Chief Executive Officer Jeffrey Immelt spent sixteen years reimagining GE. He sold off slow-growth, low-tech, non-industrial components of the conglomerate and doubled GE’s investment in research and development. GE became the poster child for how modern companies could take an entrepreneurial approach to management and achieve long-term growth. When Jeffrey Immelt stepped down, longtime GE executive John Flannery stepped up to lead. Flannery had his own ideas for change, but those plans quickly went south. Disappointing financial results led to Flannery’s departure after only 14 months.

Following in the footsteps of a legend is no cake walk. In the business world, successors to longstanding CEOs may share a similar background and work history to the giants that they replace; however, they tend to turn in worse financial performances. That leads to shorter tenures—5.3 years for a successor versus 13.7 years for their predecessor. And those departures often are not pretty. About 35% of successors are forced out by their Boards of Directors in “involuntary departures,” without any plan for who will succeed them.

In our final lesson on David, the long-serving monarch was passing the torch to his son Solomon. Those were some big shoes to fill. Anointed to one day rule over Israel while just a shepherd boy with a heart for God, David had gone on to vanquish the giant Goliath and become an ingenious military leader who did what King Saul could not: defeat the Philistines. David had united Israel’s twelve tribes to forge a nation of growing wealth and status in the Ancient Near East. From Jerusalem, David had woven a network of impressive alliances and trading connections.

David’s son Solomon did not have a particularly strong claim to the throne. He was the eldest son of David’s ninth wife Bathsheba with any number of older brothers. This was at a time when the oldest male child was typically the heir apparent. That honor fell to David’s son Adonijah, who had already received the blessing of some powerful supporters, like the influential priest Abiathar and Joab, commander of David’s army. Solomon wasn’t like his powerful father. Solomon never tended a flock, never defeated a giant, never even went into battle. He was bookish, a creature of the royal court. When in 1 Chronicles 28, David gathered the leaders of Israel and introduced Solomon as his successor, David said that God almighty had chosen the boy to sit on the throne. But there must have been a few who heard the news and wondered if when God called Solomon, God had gotten a wrong number.

Solomon is not alone in facing a daunting challenge. We have all had experiences when we have needed to fill some big shoes. We may have even had some big questions about our worthiness or competence to fulfill that new role.

There is nothing like parenting to make us feel like we need to fill some big shoes, especially if we had exceptional parents ourselves. Remember when you first held your child? Remember the utter vulnerability of your little one and the immensity of your love for that little nugget? Pondering the long years of commitment and responsibility to come were enough to make ours head spin. Somehow, as parents, we put one foot in front of the other, even if we aren’t sure where we are going or how we will get there.

Perhaps we have been like Tim Cook of Apple or John Flannery of GE. We’ve been tapped to step into the big shoes of a workplace hero. The boss retires and we are the heir apparent. Or Mom and Pop want to pass the family business on to us. Or we put together our best resume, endure some tough rounds of interviews, and land the corporate job of our dreams. Suddenly it is the first day of work and we find ourselves wondering, “What have I gotten myself into?”

It happens with the turn of generations, too. Our parents pass on, as do the aunts and uncles. One day, we realize we are it. We are the matriarch or the patriarch. Younger family members begin calling us for advice. They name their kids after us. They ask us to take on family responsibilities, like hosting the holiday dinner or presiding at their non-church weddings.

We know how it can be to be to feel overwhelmed and ill-equipped. Don’t we?

As Solomon faced the daunting task of following in his father’s footsteps, David gave some parting words of advice. The king began with an exhortation to be strong and courageous. Who wouldn’t want to hear that? David then emphasizes the importance of keeping God at the center of life by following God’s instructions and worshipping and loving the Lord alone. That’s sound advice in any circumstance. Don’t forget those who are loyal, like Barzillai, reward them. Of course!

What David said next sounds less appealing. It’s advice that emerged from a cultural world of blood vengeance that is very different from our own, unless we are a mafia boss. Take care of Joab and Shimei. David’s words sound bloodthirsty, but they are Ancient Near East statecraft at its finest. Joab had supported Abiathar’s failed bid for the kingship. Joab had also twice murdered other generals to consolidate his power at times when David was vulnerable and could not retaliate. Shimei had publicly disrespected and cursed David. Shimei could stir sedition in the transition of power. Now, as the torch was being passed, Solomon would need to act fast, ending their lives and the threats that they posed to his reign.

Solomon acted on the advice of his father. He loved the Lord and built the Temple that would keep God at the heart of Israel. In his own way, Solomon was strong and courageous, too. Joab was executed while clinging to the horns of the altar in the Lord’s tabernacle. And Shimei was kept on a short leash in Jerusalem until he broke his house arrest and was executed. The family of Barzillai was given land in Jerusalem.

Solomon filled David’s big shoes. Like his father, he reigned over Israel for forty years. Not only did he build the Temple, but he also employed architects and builders to construct the royal palace, siege walls for the city of Jerusalem, and a network of fortified cities throughout the land. He defeated the Syrians giving Israel control over a vast network of overland trading routes. He formed an alliance with the Phoenicians that expanded Israel’s economic power. Solomon’s wisdom and judgment became as legendary as his father’s charismatic leadership and military accomplishments. He was legendary. He left big shoes to fill.

What about us? What about those of us who ponder what it means to step up and out as parents, or professionals, or family leaders and fill some big shoes. I’d like to spin some midrash and put some words in David’s mouth, sharing some advice that speaks to us here and now. Are we ready?

David speaks . . .

“Be strong and take courage. I’m not talking about muscles or might. I’m talking about growing fully and truly into the person God created you to be. You are unique. You have God-given gifts and abilities. Use them in service to God and others.

Keep the Lord at the center of your life. Build your family around God. Begin your workday with an appeal to the almighty. Remember that when the going gets tough, you are never in it alone. The Lord is with you and is always strong to save.

Take care of business. Don’t be like me. Don’t let old wounds, past hurts, and bad behaviors fester for the next generation to resolve. Remember the words of the One Minute Manager—it won’t be written for another 3,000 or so years, but stay with me. Pay attention every day and take one minute to offer correction to others. Take one minute to offer praise.

Finally, stop measuring yourself against what has gone before. Stop measuring yourself against me. There are always big shoes to fill. Yet you are not the same as the one who preceded you, any more than Solomon was the same as me (David). Yet you can make your mark in your own way. You can establish your own legacy.”

Well, my friends, the world of opportunities beckons. It’s time to step up and step out. Let’s fill those big shoes.

Resources:

J. Robinson. The Cambridge Bible Commentary: 1 Kings. London: Cambridge Press, 1972.

C.F. Keil and F. Delitzsch. 1 and 2 Kings. Peabody, MA: Hendrickson Publishers, 1989.

Per-Ola Karlsson, Martha Turner, and Peter Gassmann. “Succeeding the long-serving legend in the corner office” in Leadership, Summer 2019, Issue 95. Accessed online at https://www.strategy-business.com/article/Succeeding-the-long-serving-legend-in-the-corner-office

Shu-Tsen Ko. “Predecessors set the bar for both succeeding leaders and their employees” in Lead Read Today, November 13, 2018, Fisher College of Business, Ohio State University. https://fisher.osu.edu/blogs/leadreadtoday/blog/predecessors-set-the-bar-for-both-succeeding-leaders-and-their-employees

Rebecca Zucker. “How to Succeed When You Have Big Shoes to Fill” in Harvard Business Review, Feb. 17, 2020. Accessed online at How to Succeed When You Have Big Shoes to Fill (hbr.org)

1 Kings 2:1-12

2When David’s time to die drew near, he charged his son Solomon, saying: ²“I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, be courageous, ³and keep the charge of the Lord your God, walking in his ways and keeping his statutes, his commandments, his ordinances, and his testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, so that you may prosper in all that you do and wherever you turn. ⁴Then the Lord will establish his word that he spoke concerning me: ‘If your heirs take heed to their way, to walk before me in faithfulness with all their heart and with all their soul, there shall not fail you a successor on the throne of Israel.’ ⁵“Moreover you know also what Joab son of Zeruiah did to me, how he dealt with the two commanders of the armies of Israel, Abner son of Ner, and Amasa son of Jether, whom he murdered, retaliating in time of peace for blood that had been shed in war, and putting the blood of war on the belt around his waist, and on the sandals on his feet. ⁶Act therefore according to your wisdom, but do not let his gray head go down to Sheol in peace. ⁷Deal loyally, however, with the sons of Barzillai the Gileadite, and let them be among those who eat at your table; for with such loyalty they met me when I fled from your brother Absalom. ⁸There is also with you Shimei son of Gera, the Benjaminite from Bahurim, who cursed me with a terrible curse on the day when I went to Mahanaim; but when he came down to meet me at the Jordan, I swore to him by the Lord, ‘I will not put you to death with the sword.’ ⁹Therefore do not hold him guiltless, for you are a wise man; you will know what you ought to do to him, and you must bring his gray head down with blood to Sheol.” ¹⁰Then David slept with his ancestors, and was buried in the city of David. ¹¹The time that David reigned over Israel was forty years; he reigned seven years in Hebron, and thirty-three years in Jerusalem.¹²So Solomon sat on the throne of his father David; and his kingdom was firmly established.

A House Divided

August 11, 2024 / reverendjoannwhite / Leave a comment

Sabbath Day Thoughts — “A House Divided” 2 Sam. 18:5-9, 15, 31-33

Jill hasn’t seen her Mom in a decade. Both of Jill’s parents have struggled with alcoholism. Addiction cast a long, painful shadow over her childhood. When Jill started her own family, she hoped that things might change. She scheduled times for her mother to visit with the kids, but there were so many no-shows or last-minute cancellations. The last straw came when Jill’s Mom offered to watch the kids for the evening so that Jill and her husband could see a concert. When they arrived home near midnight, they found Mom passed out on the couch. The kids had never gotten dinner, and the baby was crying in a dirty diaper.

Carl is estranged from his father. Dad left the family when Carl was only eight years old. There were years of shared custody with Carl bouncing back and forth between his parents. But Carl’s father has a new family with a younger wife and small children. Carl’s dad was always too busy to come to Carl’s baseball games and didn’t show up for graduation. When Carl sees his father doting on those younger children, it hurts Carl’s heart. He doesn’t understand why his Dad doesn’t love him or make time for him.

Jenny and her brother Sam stopped speaking after their parents died. Sam always felt that Jenny was their favorite. They always sang Jenny’s praises, she was included in special vacations, and she received generous gifts, including a down payment for her home. When it was time to settle their parent’s estate, Sam learned that there was nothing left. Jenny had power of attorney and had spent his inheritance on a pricey renovation of her own home.

If we come from a family with painful, broken relationships, we are not alone. Seventy to eighty percent of Americans consider their families to be dysfunctional. Issues of violence, abuse, neglect, and addiction create a toxic, traumatic environment for children. Unhealthy boundaries, the inability to give love, and poor communication also lead to breakdowns in families and leave a lasting legacy of guilt and shame. One in four people experience estrangement from a family member. One in ten people say that they have a cut off, a total disconnection, in a relationship with a parent or a child. Our homes have been divided in painful ways, and we can feel powerless to change.

Our reading from Second Samuel is a final sad chapter in a lengthy tale of dysfunction in the family of King David. Last week, we learned that David’s misconduct was to have lasting consequences for his house. This week, it proves to be true. It started with David’s treatment of the women in his life. In his bid to forge alliances and secure his dynasty, David acquired eight wives and at least eleven concubines. In a patriarchal world, where women had no standing apart from their menfolk, we can imagine the bitter rivalry and hurt feelings in David’s house as younger, more nubile women were constantly added to David’s harem. Those bitter feelings passed to children, who longed for the love of an absent and unavailable father.

The trouble with David’s second son Absalom was nine years in the making. When older half-brother and heir-apparent Amnon raped Absalom’s sister Tamar, Absalom hoped that his father David would remedy the injustice. But David didn’t. Amnon was his favorite son, so the king was unwilling to enforce any discipline. After two years of waiting for his father to act, Absalom took justice into his own hands. He struck down Amnon and fled to the neighboring Kingdom of Geshur. David ignored him. After three years, David’s general Joab engineered a reconciliation between father and son. Absalom moved home, but his father continued to ignore him. After four more years of this, Absalom left Jerusalem for Hebron. There he launched a conspiracy to usurp his father.

It almost worked. David with his loyalists fled Jerusalem just ahead of Absalom’s advancing forces. The rebellious son moved into the royal palace and raped his father’s concubines. The victory was short-lived. Absalom’s upstart army was no match for David’s seasoned warriors. In the bloodbath that unfolded in the forest of Ephraim, Absalom’s escape was foiled when his abundant tresses caught in the downward reaching branches of an oak tree. It didn’t take long for Joab and his armor bearers to dispatch the rebel, repeatedly running him through with their spears.

The sad, sad tale ends with the sound of a father’s remorse. David cries, “My son, Absalom! My son, my son, Absalom! If only I had died instead of you!” We can well imagine the self-recrimination behind David’s lamentation. If only he had punished Amnon when he violated Tamar. If only he had protected and comforted his daughter. If only he had been truly reconciled with Absalom. If only he had not allowed Absalom to languish in the vacuum left by too little love, too little kindness, too little attention.

Our family dysfunction seems pretty tame when compared to David’s household. In fact, this is such an unpleasant chapter in David’s story that we might like to skip right over it, but that wouldn’t provide us with the real picture of David, who may have had a heart for God but also made a mess of his own family. In tackling this terrible tale head-on, we are granted the opportunity to ponder our own families. I’d like to suggest a few lessons that we can glean from today’s reading—with hope that they might be helpful as we seek wholeness in the midst of dysfunction

A first lesson is that we all need helpful people and caring places where we can find support and healing. Poor Absalom, raised in a household that pitted wife against wife and child against child! Poor Absalom, waiting for justice for his sexually abused sister! Poor Absalom, longing year after year for the love of his father. Absalom needed caring people with whom he could work through his trauma. Absalom needed a safe and caring place where he could find the love that his father would never provide. Sometimes we need mentors or counselors, pastors or churches, that can help us to heal. We who have known our own broken families, we who have done our own healing work, we can offer the caring presence and unconditional love that help to mend hurting hearts.

We may also find healing when we decide to make different choices for our lives and families. Absalom repeated his father’s sins. He had Amnon killed, much as David had Uriah killed. Absalom raped his father’s concubines, just as David raped Bathsheba. The apple didn’t fall far from that tree. Yet we can choose to not repeat the sins of others. We have the power to remember, reflect, and opt to behave in very different ways. Those of us, who never knew a parent’s approval, can make sure our kids know that they are loved unconditionally. Those who grew up in households with poor communication and deep, dark secrets can opt to live in the light and speak the truth. We who are plagued by shame and guilt can grab ahold of God’s mercy and trust that the grace of our Lord Jesus is always sufficient for us.

We can also rethink family. In some cases where there is intractable abuse or unresolved addiction, in some cases where there is untimely death or even suicide, we don’t find a satisfactory resolution for the pain and brokenness of our families. Yet it may still be possible to find some measure of peace and healing through the families that we make. When Jesus’s family thought he was crazy and wanted to end his ministry by taking him back home to Nazareth, Jesus found in his friends and disciples the kinship and love that he needed. Jesus pointed to his companions and said, “Here are my mother, and brothers, and sisters.” May we find and be for one another the families of necessity that help us to heal, grow, and endure.

Finally, we can remember that we are not alone in the struggle. God is with us. God knows how it feels to be despised and rejected. God knows how it feels when addiction or greed or violence becomes the self-destructive idol of our beloved one. God knows what it is like to lose a grown son. God weeps with David over the loss of Absalom. God weeps with Jill over the chronic problem of her Mom’s alcoholism. God weeps with Carl over his absentee Dad. God weeps with Sam over the betrayal of his sister Jenny. God weeps with us in the chaos of trauma and dysfunction. We can trust that we have a holy helper. Thanks be to God.

Seventy to eighty percent of Americans may consider their families to be dysfunctional, but there is hope for us yet. May we find the helping people and places that we need. May we make some different choices for our lives. May we forge from those around us the family of our necessity. May we trust that God holds the hope and healing for a better tomorrow for our families.

Resources

Ted A. Smith. “Commentary on 2 Sam18:5-9, 15, 31-33” in Preaching This Week, August 9, 2009. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 18:5-9, 15, 31-33 – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

Robert Hoch. “Commentary on 2 Sam18:5-9, 15, 31-33” in Preaching This Week, August 12, 2012. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 18:5-9, 15, 31-33 – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

Ralph W. Klein. “Commentary on 2 Sam18:5-9, 15, 31-33” in Preaching This Week, August 9, 2015. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 18:5-9, 15, 31-33 – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

Timothy Adkins-Jones. “Commentary on 2 Sam18:5-9, 15, 31-33” in Preaching This Week, August 8, 2021. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 18:5-9, 15, 31-33 – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

Soulaima Gourani. “What Does Having A ‘Real’ Family Mean?” in Forbes Magazine, Nov. 24, 2019. Accessed online at What Does Having A “Real” Family Mean? (forbes.com)

Kui Mwai. “Why So Many People (Myself Included) Are Experiencing Family Estrangement” in Vogue: Culture, May 2, 2024. Accessed online at Why So Many People (Myself Included) Are Experiencing Family Estrangement | Vogue

The Reckoning

August 4, 2024 / reverendjoannwhite / Leave a comment

Sabbath Day Thoughts — “The Reckoning” 2 Sam. 11:26-12:13a

We are constantly judging others. It is part of how we are hardwired as human beings, a legacy of the days when determining the safety or danger of any given situation could mean the difference between life and death. Researchers at Dartmouth and New York Universities determined that the human brain begins to label people as trustworthy or untrustworthy in a split second, even before we have time to consciously analyze what we see.

Our natural tendency to judge others is further shaped by our context. Children raised in families with critical parents learn to judge, sorting people into a ranked hierarchy from excellent to good to adequate to “you should be embarrassed by that effort.” Similarly, students, who cut their teeth in hyper-competitive schools and universities, can be ruthless in assigning value to the efforts of their classmates. We want that gold star for ourselves.

Psychologists suggest that our innate need to judge finds further reinforcement from the mental payoff that we reap. Finding others inadequate boosts our own sense of self-esteem and competency. We think, “At least I’m better than that!” Carl Jung, whose work was so formative for analytical psychology, formulated that there is a deeper and darker motivation behind our need to judge. Jung argued that we refuse to see what we do not like about ourselves, but at a deeper level, we still need to deal with those qualities and actions. So, we project those flaws onto others. We dislike and even hate in others that part of ourselves that we have denied and disowned.

In our reading from 2 Samuel, King David rushed to judgment when the Prophet Nathan told him a story of injustice. Last week, we heard the story of David’s abuse of power. While the armies of Israel waged war against the Ammonites, David stayed home and got up to no good. First, he violated and impregnated Bathsheba. Then, he had her husband Uriah murdered to cover up the sin. As today’s reading began, David thought all the mischief had been managed. He had even appeared generous and magnanimous by taking the widowed Bathsheba into the royal household and making her a wife.

There was only one problem—and it was a big one. God was a witness. God knew that the king had coveted his neighbor’s wife, committed adultery, borne false witness, and staged a murder. God didn’t like what God had seen, so a holy messenger, the Prophet Nathan, was called to confront David with his sin.

It was deftly done. David as king spent part of his day hearing the disputes of his people and rendering judgments. Nathan stood in line in the judgment hall and waited. When his turn came, he told a sad story of the abuse of power. We heard it—the rich man stole and killed the beloved pet of his impoverished neighbor without a second thought to the lamb’s suffering or the neighbor’s grief. David, who had not acknowledged the abuse and injustice of his own actions, rushed to judgment as he heard those actions attributed to another. “This man deserves to die!” the king proclaimed, unwittingly passing judgment on himself.

It’s a story that makes us want to pass our own judgments. How disappointed we are in David, who has proven that he is just as capable of misusing his authority as the last king, Saul. It’s a story that uncomfortably reveals that David is both sinner and saint. He is a rapist, murderer, liar, and predator. Yet, David is also Israel’s champion, a war hero, a poet, the anointed one, and a man with a heart for God. Humanity is complex, with the potential for so much good—and so much evil. It’s a fact that undergirds the salvation story of scripture. It stretches from God’s warning to Cain in the Garden of Eden, saying, “Sin is at your door. Its desire is to master you, but you must rule over it” (Gen. 4:7). It stretches to the cross, where Jesus took on the sin of the world so that we could be reconciled to God and one another. We are all sinners and saints.

David’s response to the parable of the ewe lamb reflects his inability to see and accept his own moral failure. We, too, find it easier to see the sins of others than to recognize our own faults. We lament and demonstrate against the humanitarian crisis in Gaza even as we arm the Israeli Defense Force. We rail against illegal immigration at our southern border even as we tank bi-partisan efforts to address the problem. We judge our neighbor’s addiction to drugs or alcohol while we soothe our anxiety with too much food or pornography or shopping ‘til we drop. Everyone is a judge. Everyone is a critic. Everyone has an inner troll, waiting to drop the bomb of condemnation on anyone other than ourselves. There’s a reason that Jesus cautioned the Pharisees when they judged his ministry and his disciples, saying that they would be better served attending to the plank in their own eye than casting aspersions against the crumb in the eye of their neighbor.

Nathan’s parable serves as a reminder that, not only are we sinner and saint, not only are we more eager to judge the fault of others than to confess our own failings, but we are also all subject to holy judgment. It’s a disquieting contention of scripture that there will be a Day of Judgment when we will be deemed sheep or goats, saints or sinners. David thought the mischief was managed. We think no one knows our sin. But God sees and God knows. In fact, our sins against one another are also sins against God. Nathan said it best in telling David, “Why have you despised the word of the Lord?” Indeed, according to the Ten Commandments, David’s sins of adultery and murder were a violation of Israel’s covenant with God and punishable by death. David knew this. That’s why when he was publicly confronted with his crimes, he confessed, “I have sinned against the Lord.” He threw himself upon the mercy of his eternal judge.

There is a lot of bad news in our scripture today: we are all both sinners and saints, we judge others and fail to accept our shortcomings, and we will one day face judgment. And yet there is good news. The good news is that God is merciful and abounding in steadfast love. When David finally faced facts, Nathan offered God’s mercy, saying, “God has taken away your sin; you will not die.” There would, of course, be consequences that sprang from David’s unjust actions. We all know what it is like to face the music of owning up to what we have done, whether we want to or not. Yet we can trust that God chooses to forgive. There is mercy for us.

We, who are hardwired to judge and have painfully experienced the judgment of others, struggle to trust in the mercy of our God. That steadfast love only becomes real for us when we remember what God has done for us in Jesus of Nazareth. The life of Jesus is an extended metaphor for the limitless love and incomparable mercy of God. In Jesus, we know that God loves us enough to become flesh, live among us, and teach us the better way of the kingdom. In Jesus, we learned that God loves us enough to generously forgive frail disciples, formidable opponents, and even the executioners who nailed him to a cross and gambled for his clothes. Who is in a position to condemn us? Only Jesus. As we celebrate the Lord’s Supper today and partake of the body and blood of our Lord, we remember that God would sooner die than be parted from us. The mercy of our Lord abounds for us. Thanks be to God.

Perhaps we come closest to Jesus and to embodying his Kingdom when we dare to allow God’s mercy to flow through us to others. When we rise above our instinct to judge, when we stop projecting onto others what we loathe in ourselves, when we understand that we are all in need of a savior, it is then that the Kingdom comes alive in life changing ways. We find the wherewithal to truly love our neighbor, and we place our hearts on the altar of God’s love where we are helped and healed and made new. May we go forth to love more and to judge less.

Resources

Dana Harron. “Why Do We Judge Other People?” in Psychology Today, Oct. 21, 2021. Accessed online at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-eating-disorders/202110/why-do-we-judge-other-people

Visweswaran Balasubramanian. “Psychology of Judging – what it reveals about us” in Linked In Pulse, Dec. 8, 2020. Accessed online at https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/psychology-judging-what-reveals-us-visweswaran-balasubramanian/

Dhuvra Koranne. “The Psychology of Judging Others” in Mind Voyage, Nov. 8, 2023. Accessed online at The Psychology of Judging Others | Mind Voyage

Alexandra Sifferlin. “Our Brains Immediately Judge People” in Time Magazine, August 6, 2014. Accessed online at https://time.com/3083667/brain-trustworthiness/

Ted A. Smith. “Commentary on 2 Sam. 11:26-12:13a” in Preaching This Week, August 2, 2009. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 11:26—12:13a – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

Ralph Klein. “Commentary on 2 Sam. 11:26-12:13a” in Preaching This Week, August 2, 2015. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 11:26—12:13a – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

Roger Nam. “Commentary on 2 Sam. 11:26-12:13a” in Preaching This Week, August 4, 2024. Accessed online at Commentary on 2 Samuel 11:26—12:13a – Working Preacher from Luther Seminary

2 Samuel 11:26—12:13a

²⁶When the wife of Uriah heard that her husband was dead, she made lamentation for him. ²⁷When the mourning was over, David sent and brought her to his house, and she became his wife, and bore him a son. But the thing that David had done displeased the Lord,

12and the Lord sent Nathan to David. He came to him, and said to him, “There were two men in a certain city, the one rich and the other poor. ²The rich man had very many flocks and herds; ³but the poor man had nothing but one little ewe lamb, which he had bought. He brought it up, and it grew up with him and with his children; it used to eat of his meager fare, and drink from his cup, and lie in his bosom, and it was like a daughter to him. ⁴Now there came a traveler to the rich man, and he was loath to take one of his own flock or herd to prepare for the wayfarer who had come to him, but he took the poor man’s lamb, and prepared that for the guest who had come to him.” ⁵Then David’s anger was greatly kindled against the man. He said to Nathan, “As the Lord lives, the man who has done this deserves to die; ⁶he shall restore the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing, and because he had no pity.” ⁷Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the Lord, the God of Israel: I anointed you king over Israel, and I rescued you from the hand of Saul; ⁸I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom, and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would have added as much more. ⁹Why have you despised the word of the Lord, to do what is evil in his sight? You have struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and have taken his wife to be your wife, and have killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. ¹⁰Now therefore the sword shall never depart from your house, for you have despised me, and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife. ¹¹Thus says the Lord: I will raise up trouble against you from within your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes, and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this very sun. ¹²For you did it secretly; but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun.” ¹³David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan said to David, “Now the Lord has put away your sin; you shall not die.

Joann White

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